It came as a surprise that she left you and now, you want to win back her love. Women will end a relationship when we feel that there’s no way that we can deal with a difficult situation. When this breakup does occur, we may either tell you or simply leave you without warning.

But don’t worry. There’s still a chance to win back her love, but first you must figure out what it was that caused the breakup. In this regard, there are some common reasons why women leave a relationship, and here are a few of them:

Failed Expectations

We all have expectations when we enter relationships. We want a certain level of intimacy, a certain level of passion, or a certain level of stability. This was how things were when your relationship first started. However after the breakup, some women can’t help but ask: “What happened to all those expectations?”

Somewhere along the way, your wife or girlfriend became disappointed at all the failed promises of your relationship. And it is because of this that she left you, and there are a number of reasons as to why she felt this way. Perhaps it was because she had unrealistic expectations of you. Maybe it was because you were not able to give her the kind of family that she wants. Or maybe she wants you to be more romantic, wealthier, or more attentive to her. Regardless of the reason, she felt frustrated and it is up to you to figure out why.

So if you can figure out her expectations as well as the source of her disappointment, you will have a better chance at patching up your relationship.

Lack of Communication

A woman wants to feel like she can say anything to her husband and boyfriend. When a guy engages in conversation, a woman would take it as a sign of affection and love. Of course, if a guy decides to brush off her opinions or acts as if he isn’t interested in anything that his girlfriend or wife has to say then he is effectively alienating her.

Now, we know that there are women who talk too much, but even if that’s the case, it’s not really the point. You won’t have to talk to her for several hours on end. A daily hour or so of meaningful conversation daily can do wonders for your relationship. Why? It’s because you are giving her your attention and that’s the matters to her.

So if you are planning to win back her love, you will have to start by talking to her. Oh, and if you do patch up your relationship, make sure that you don’t fall into the same patterns of non-communication again.

Lack of Intimacy

Intimacy can mean different things to different people. A major reason why women leave their guys behind is that they feel disappointed in terms of intimacy. If she expects to be kissed, hugged, cuddled or have silly little pet names and you don’t do it, she may end up feeling as if you don’t love her. And if she doesn’t feel that you love her, she becomes dissatisfied, which in turn leads to a breakup.

A lot of women need intimacy in their lives in order to feel that they are loved. The problem is that men don’t realize this and so they end up looking like they’re taking their wives and girlfriends for granted, even if they aren’t.

These are things that you have to know about intimacy if you are to win back her love.


Cheating is a big deal and if you’ve cheated on your wife or girlfriend then you already know exactly what caused the breakup. Cheating or appearing you’re about to cheat breaks the bond of trust that is an essential part of any relationship. Once that trust is broken, it’s difficult to put back together.

If you’re guilty of cheating on your girl, you’ll have to do a lot of work and make a lot of promises before you can get her to trust you again. For starters, you’ll have to convince her that you’ll be faithful to her again. However, if she’s willing to forgive you, you shouldn’t waste this opportunity to win back her love.

The key is to figure out why she left you and then you are able to win back her love.


Anna Perkins is a relationship writer who offers her own forthright opinion over the worlds of dating, romance, relationships , marriage and friendships. She loves cats, traveling, spending time with her son and husband.


  1. Hi,
    I dont know what to do to find peace. I dont have any answers and dont know where to look…..


    • Badlands Babe Reply

      What do you mean you can’t find any answers & you’re lost?!? The major points are hit upon in this article.
      If you are really that ignorant & out of touch than that there is probably the reason.

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