Are there signs your ex wants you back? Chances are, when you’re going through a difficult breakup you’ll see plenty of them. You’ll be so confused that at the same time you’ll feel as though they never want to see you again. This is because all these supposed signals are so interpretable. You can’t give a list of things that you should watch out for and use them as a road map to winning your ex back. If it were that simple, you’d never see people break up (unless of course they really both hate eachother).

However, there are certain things that can show you whether or not you’re making things worse. You can tell by a person’s body language how comfortable or not they are around you. You can carefully guage these things and doing so will really allow you to inch your way closer to fixing the broken relationship. Some of the things to look out for:

  • If your ex contacts you out of the blue (ie, not returning your attempt to contact them)
  • If you and your ex are in the same place and they try to keep their eyes on your inconspicuously
  • If your ex isn’t “moving on” by dating others or getting into another relationship
  • If your ex responds positively whenever you try to communicate with them

Now, keep in mind that these are all good signs but they don’t guarantee anything. They simply mean that your ex hasn’t completely written you off. If you want to make an ex want you back, you’re on the right track, but you’ll still need to keep pulling back. On the other hand, there is some body language to watch out for that signals that you are pushing your ex farther away:

  • If your ex never attempts to make contact with you and it’s been a year
  • If your ex has dated people or is in another serious relationship
  • If your ex ignores you

Now, these things seem pretty obvious to people not in a breakup, but for people in the middle of one it’s not so simple. Whenever you’re confused, the best advice is to not do anything. It’s much much better to not do anything than to do something that will make it worse. However, whatever happens, don’t think that it’s the end of the world.

Chances Of Getting Back With Ex

A “Chances of getting back with ex” calculator would be so nice, wouldn’t it? You could input their words when they broke up with you, maybe add in some factors like how long your were dating, how long you’ve been broken up, and what the causes of the breakup were. Then the calculator would crunch the numbers and tell you the chances of making up.

Alas, that’s not the case. It doesn’t work out that way, unfortunately. However, it’s actually a good thing that this isn’t the case, and I’m about to tell you why.

Pretend you did actually have the calculator. What if it told you the chances of getting back with your ex were 10%. How would that make you feel? You’d feel terrible, for one thing, that the odds of things ever going back to the way there were are stacked heavily against you. You’d also not be able to move on because of that lingering hope that there’s still a chance.

Now, you’d obviously be pretty excited if it told you that there was an 80% chance you could get back together, right? Even though there’s still a chance it wouldn’t work, you have pretty good odds in that case. Imagine how disappointed you would be if things still didn’t work out. You’d probably smash the calculator.

Do you see the point I’m trying to make? It may sound like something that would relieve you of the guess work involved in deciding whether to try to win them back or move on, but it just makes things much worse. Besides, you don’t need these factors to tell you what you should do with your life. The choice is truly yours. You alone can decide if you want to get them back or be done with it and move on. There is no percentage or chance involved here. It’s all about human behavior and emotion.

That’s why there are actually guides out there designed to show you how to get your ex girlfriend or boyfriend or husband or wife back. They are doing their best to compile all the information that years of study has uncovered into an easy to understand document that will show you how to get your ex back. It sounds ridiculous at first but just think about it for a minute.

How much do we know about humans? Advertisers have figured out human wants to the letter and continually refine their approach to create increasingly irresistible offers. These campaigns are based on years of studying humans and how they react to things.

The fact is this: Don’t worry about chances. This relationship is in your hands if you know what you’re doing.


Anna Perkins is a relationship writer who offers her own forthright opinion over the worlds of dating, romance, relationships , marriage and friendships. She loves cats, traveling, spending time with her son and husband.


  1. Renee Zillweggar Reply

    That’s true! There are things that we must take into consideration especially in having our ex back. We must not do something that will decrease our chance of getting them back. It might push them away even more. Make sure that he/she likes to be with you and that the feeling is mutual. Thanks for posting this article.

  2. HI I recently bumped into my ex from 17 years ago…it was like we picked up from where we left off…the chemistry was there. I have to add that he split up with me…and i was heartbroken and it took me a few years to get over him. He met his wife quite quickly after our breakup and married shortly after that. I met my husband and we married but i have to say he was never the love of my life..i was at the age of 40 and really wanted to be married and have kids. Which i did after a lot of attempts…i have my beautuful daughter…the centre of my life. So my marraige is a loveless existance. My hb is a pilot based in middle east and is never home…i missed him at the beginning but came to learn i was lonely when he went away but was lonely when he was home. He didnt talk much and lately ive told him i think he could be a spy as he never devulges anything. Really. Anyway there are so many other things ii couldsay but it would take too long. Im not in love with him. I am ready to move on…not that i want to do but there is only so much i can take. We have done counsilling…like trying to prise a clam open…made me realise how lonely this marraige is. As i said meeting my ex ignited a fire in me andi know its not right but its amazing. We r in touch by text. He is going thru a seperation and he is leading a seperate life frm his wife. Anyway im ramblng that 2 glass of wine. But i am ready for my new life with my daughter..adios

  3. Okay me and my boyfriend broke up a month ago, we agreed to break up because it wasn’t working and we still talk and we are good friends. Today I saw him and I was too scared to say hello, he ended up waving and smiling like he was excited to see me and he said that I have a good jumper, he hasn’t dated anyone after we broke up but sometimes he might like someone but he comes to me for help and sometimes he doesn’t want to talk, he gives me mix emotions and I can’t understand them, I really like him still and I want to date again but I don’t think he will I need help and it’s confusing me on what to do

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