Ending a relationship isn’t easy. When you decide to end things you need to find some good methods for breaking up with your boyfriend as you don’t want to cause him unnecessary pain. You don’t want to make him angry and certainly don’t want him to become some sort of stalker. But it is really important to understand that not all relationships built to last and coming out of such relationship are equally challenging. This could be also because you don’t want a scene that you know your boyfriend will create or you are just too afraid to acknowledge that the relationship has run its course. While it is always best to tell your boyfriend directly and bite the bullet and get it over with, there are other ways to break it up too.

So, if you are looking for ways to break it off without saying it aloud, here are seven ways to get your boyfriend dump you.

1. Start Acting Distant

Remember in the first throes of love how you used to constantly calling each other because you couldn’t stay apart? Well, if you want your boyfriend to dump you that behavior is a big no-no. Instead, it is time to put some distance between him and you. Start by not answering his call or responding to his text messages. In case you do talk to him, tell him you are busy and can’t speak to him. Or, if you have made plans to go on a date, call up the last minute and tell him you have something else to do.

Once you start acting distant, your boyfriend will figure it out that you are avoiding him and don’t want to spend time with him. Sooner (or later) he is bound to call the relationship off.

2. Behave Like Me Know-it-All

No man likes to be in a company of a woman who believes she knows everything there is to know. And, this is one of the best ways to get your boyfriend to dump you. Show him at any given opportunity that you are always right, and keep rubbing it in. Adopt this attitude even if you are not right. Begin to nitpick everything he does or says; suggest doing things your way because it is the ‘right’ way.

You will be surprised how quickly this behavior will push your boyfriend away from you. He will think you are arrogant and rude, and within a few weeks he will dump you. What a relief!

3. Flirt with Other Guys

Jealousy has killed many relationships. So, why should yours be any different? Jealousy comes from being insecure, paranoid or obsessive. Hence, if you have this clingy and needy boyfriend you no longer want in your life, stoke that jealousy by flirting with other guys. Bat eyelashes at men, sashay around, and dole out your mobile number like hot cakes.

This will make your boyfriend upset. However, don’t stop. Continue flirts and you will get dumped before you can say ‘Jack Rabbit’!

4. Become Clingy and Needy

Nothing is more off-putting than a partner who is needy, clingy and insecure. A healthy relationship means having friends and pursuits beyond your partner and relationship. But, you can use this to your advantage. Accuse your partner of not making time for you; spending too much time with his friends or hobby; and eying other girls. Then begin insisting you constantly want to be with him and you do not have a life beyond the relationship.

Success will yours very shortly, with your boyfriend dumping you as it is very difficult to cope with a jealous and suspicious partner.

5. Pick Up Fights for No Reason

Look for small things to start a fight. Blame him for everything. Keep harping about his negatives, and it will frustrate him to no end. Initially, he will try to placate you and get you to see some reason. However, don’t relent. Remember your goal – he needs to dump you. So go on fighting, arguing and being unreasonable. Your boyfriend will get so frustrated that he will throw in the towel after some time.

He will be thanking his lucky stars that he got away from you before it was too late while you can scream with glee as you have found the secret to get your boyfriend to dump you.

6. Don’t Tell Him You Love Him

Saying you love a person is reaffirming the faith in the relationship, and partners love to hear those three precious words. So, each time your boyfriend tells you he love you, avoid saying it back. Instead, be noncommittal and mutter something incoherent. If you do end up saying you love him, be as unconvincing as possible that your boyfriend begins to doubt your feelings for him.

It will reach a stage where he will decide that he cannot stay with a woman who doesn’t love him or care for him, and he will dump you.

7. Stop Physical Intimacy

Physical intimacy is necessary for a relationship to be a success; and when it is missing from a relationship, there is a reason to worry. So, whether it is sex, kissing, holding hands, hugging or snuggling, stop all forms of physical intimacy. Make excuses to avoid the intimacy or pull away. He will be puzzled in the beginning wondering what is causing this reaction from you. He may even try and get you to speak about it. Do not give him an answer.

In a few weeks or months, your boyfriend will dump you because a healthy relationship cannot function without some degree of physical intimacy.

8. Talk more about Ex

This is one of the factors that makes most of the guys jealous and crazy. Whether you mention your ex’s name for good reasons or bad, your boyfriend will never be able to handle it with positivity. So if you want to put an end to your current relationship and want your boyfriend to leave you without any melodrama, then using your ex’s name is the best way to do it. Praise your ex in front of your boyfriend, pretend like you still love him and want him back in your life.

9. Forget Important days

Forgetting important days like birthdays and anniversaries is something that annoys many people. So if your boyfriend ever mentions any important occasion or days, just tell him that you completely forgot or don’t want to come. Tell him that the things which matters to him might not that important to you and you have so many other priorities that needs time and focus. Repeat this behavior few times and I am sure this will surely irritate your guy and he will ask for the break up soon.

10. Date his best buddy

Be it a guy or girl, almost everyone hates this one particular factor. No girl or guy can see their girlfriend or boyfriend dating their best friends. So use the chance and go out with his best buddy and grow the friendship to make your boyfriend jealous. Ask him small favors like fixing your laptop or plumbing, invite him to your home, go out for a movie, introduce him to your friends. All these things will make your boyfriend go crazy and red with anger. And you never know, he might leave you someday out of frustration.

11. Act like you don’t care

When you don’t care for someone, the distances and differences automatically grow. So act a little weird and act like you don’t care. Behave all weird when you go out on a dinner or party. Do not let your boyfriend talk to anyone, especially girls and if he talks to a girl, make a scene and blame him for flirting. Raise your voice until you get the attention of everyone present around. This whole act will embarrass your boyfriend a lot and he will be left with no other option than to dump you. So do it, after all, that’s what you want.

12. Befriend his friends

It is a big fact that guys are more sensitive than girls when it comes to friendship. And if you want to create disputes between you and your boyfriend, then disliking his friends, complaining about them and befriending them is one of the best ways to do it.

13. Tell them you are busy

Whenever your boyfriend comes up with a plan, tell him you are busy and have other plans. If he still insist, tell him you need your own space and want to spend some time alone away from him. This will give him a clue that you are no more interested in him and will help you to get dumped.

Try these seasoned ways to get your boyfriend to dump you. Even if you use one tactic, you are already on the way to wrecking your relationship. Try yourself and let us know how it worked out for you!


Anna Perkins is a relationship writer who offers her own forthright opinion over the worlds of dating, romance, relationships , marriage and friendships. She loves cats, traveling, spending time with her son and husband.


  1. My name is Jeanette. Several months ago I became involved with a married man, Carlton. We both decided to divorce our spouses and be together. We fell in love in a beautiful place the setting was perfect. I have discovered that I do not want to leave my husband, Bill. Bill and i have been married for so many years that he is comfortable to me. Besides, Bill would never cheat on me or hurt me in any manner. I miss Bill. Bill is not in good health and I want to spend our remaining time together. I do not want to hurt Carlton. I appreciate all the time and attention Carlton has shown me but I do not love Carlton. Carlton and I got caught up in this affair. Please help me to know how to tell Carlton I want out of our relationship. I don’t want to talk with Carlton about the problem I am wanting to end our affair. I am close to my sister, Judy and cannot bring myself to tell even her. Judy and Carlton are best friends. I want Carlton to realize how much he misses his wife and return to her. I know he still loves her. I want a clean break. I want for the breakup to be Carlton’s idea so I may put on a heartbroken act and beg for him to stay with me. But I do not want to stay with Carlton. Help me. Neither of us could ever trust each other since we are both cheaters. Bill wants me back, unconditionally. I know Bill loves me and I want to be with him. I am sorry Carlton and I hurt people.It was not right for us to hurt others.I will never trust Carlton. I want him to go away. What can I do? Please tell me how to let this be Carlton’s idea, so he saves face. I WANT OUT. I absolutely believe Carlton wishes to return to his wife. And I WANT TO GO BACK TO BILL. Help me. I want Carlton to dump me. Yes, I am a coward. He needs to go home, back to his wife he loves so I can be with Bill.

  2. Your basically promoting cheating I hope u guys never have good relationships but I already know y’all ain’t going to. Fucking pathetic human beings. It just easy enough to say let’s break up. And if they say no u call the fucking police because any stalker deserves jail. Since y’all promoting cheating I hope ever one of you get cheated on and see how it feels. Disgusting!!!

    • Exactly. I just hate the person who wrote this and thought wow what a great piece of information to share on the internet. I hope the author, and everyone who is getting inspiration from this passage gets a taste of their own medicine.
      You wanna break up? Just do it. Doing all the things listed here like a fucking retard won’t hurt your partner less. It will only make you look more cold and will probably show your true colours. Imagine wanting to break up but being so evil from the inside that you decide to make the other person do it because you’re too nice to do the devil’s job. Fuck this author and her article

      • its helpful for those that want a break from toxic relationship bro

      • To be honest it’s useful for people who are trapped in relationships with someone who doesn’t accept it’s over.

  3. Rebecca L Gamble Reply

    I have lived with a bum for 10 years. He acts like he has nowhere to go. I keep my distance. No I love you. No sex or passion. I need him to go. I have a rv and want to travel. I told him that I am moving away. Idk if this is going to work. I am his sugar mama. He threatens me when I don’t come home. I am at my wits end. Please help.

    • Ebony Knight Reply

      I just read your comment albeit a year later I figured I’d still reply. I am curious to know if things have gotten better. I’m in a similar situation. I’m doing 8 of the things this article says to do. It’s not working. I think he will bail once he has enough money saved for a house but I can’t be sure or I could just be fooling myself in thinking that. Meanwhile, I am wasting both of our time, he could do better and I want better or to be alone. I wish I wasn’t so scared to say, it’s time for you to leave. That’s the only thing I haven’t done and all of this energy spent on all of the other stuff is getting exhausting. I hope there isn’t something subconsciously blocking me from doing what I need to do. All the best to you.

  4. Tell him straight you don’t want to be with him anymore. He doesn’t contribute and Tell him to take his stuff and go

  5. F.YOU Anna Reply

    Almost everything in this article is toxic. What abou talking? It is fair to to these thing behind his/her back if he/she haven’t done anything bad to YOU. What did the person even expected going into this relationship? Isn’t it just easier to talk about you needs and your sudden dislike of this person, or do you just need to be so full of EGO and Fakeness, so that the other person starts hating you. WILL YOU FEEL BETTER AFTER THAT?
    This artcile is just pile of shit.

  6. My friend loves me, and i don’t want it to happen.i want him as a friend always. I want him to forget the love and be the old friend. What should i do?

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