There are thousands of articles that can tell you how to win back your girlfriend, which is a good thing. But if you are to get back into your partner’s good graces, you will also need to consider whether or not she wants to get back with you. And this is exactly what this article will discuss.

For starters, an overwhelming number of broken relationships results with both parties making up and getting back together again. Before you can do any reconciliation however, you will first have to figure out how to tell if your girlfriend wants you back or, if she’s glad to be away from you permanently.

Staying in Touch

If your girl still talks to you on the phone, chat with you over the net or even send you messages via text messaging or email then that is a sure sign that you can win her back or at least, hope that she completely hates you. Essentially, a woman does not keep in touch with her ex-boyfriend unless she still feels something for him.

At this point, don’t push her away, as she may take it the wrong way. If she contacts you, it’s likely that she’s still interested in you and what you’re up to. Perhaps she may even be trying to find out in a subtle way if you’re willing to give your relationship a second chance.

Friendly Dates

Many people know that the “We can still be friends” phrase is another way of saying it’s all over. However in some cases, being “still friends” can actually lead to a patched up relationship. A friendly coffee date for example, can be taken as both an indicator that your ex may still be willing to give your relationship a second try.

Although small coffee breaks or short walks together can appear meaningless (and may not actually be an indicator that your girl wants you back – just friendship), they can be an opportunity to win back your girlfriend. You can, for example, subtly remind her of how things used to be back when you were still dating. If she is still willing to get back together with you, she will become more amenable to these suggestions and you will be one step closer towards your goal.


If a lady absolutely despises a guy, she will no longer talk to him. A willingness to talk is an indication that your girlfriend is still willing to connect with you on some level. She may even be willing to talk about old times. These can be taken as a positive sign that your ex still values your input.

Keep in mind though that talking alone will not likely win back your girlfriend, since both of you may be unwilling to make the first move in expressing a desire to get back together. Nevertheless, being on good speaking terms with your ex is an important part of patching up a broken relationship.


If you got a rebound girl soon after the breakup, and your ex, after seeing her with you, becomes angry, this can be taken as another indication that she still has feelings for you. This doesn’t necessarily mean however that you should date a girl just to see if your ex is jealous. For all you know, after she sees you with another woman, she might abandon all intentions she might have had of getting back with you. Nonetheless, it is an option.

If you must try this tactic, you must exercise caution as this may backfire on you, especially if your ex becomes very angry and do her best to get a new boyfriend, just to compete with you. However, if you pull it off nicely, and if you can show her that your new girl is nothing serious, you will be able to see her emotions for you.

There are plenty of signs that can show you about your girl’s feelings towards you. Some of them are easily recognizable by any person, while other signs will be recognized only by you – her boyfriend. And despite all the signs that your girlfriend still likes you, communication and reconciliation are still the most important things that you will have to do if you are to win back your girlfriend.


Anna Perkins is a relationship writer who offers her own forthright opinion over the worlds of dating, romance, relationships , marriage and friendships. She loves cats, traveling, spending time with her son and husband.

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  1. We live together but feel like we are falling apart it’s distance, and rarely talk and no sex now, not even in same bed because of our kids right now I don’t know what to do about out situation right now and I love her and don’t want to lose her

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