The fact is that most men get the female orgasm all wrong, and a lot of girls have to end up faking it to make the guy feel better about himself. If you really want to please the girls you are with, you must know about the most effective tips, tricks and techniques there are. The more of this information you get, the more likely you will be to provide her with tons of pleasure. In the end, you will be happy you did this research.

It all starts with Foreplay

Making the girl you are with in bed cum starts with foreplay, and the importance of this cannot be understated. The fact is that what you do before the actual sex will be just as important as the exact technique that you use to give her an orgasm. For women, sex is more than just pure physical stimulation—it’s about emotion as well.

If you are truly determined to give her a fantastic orgasm that she won’t soon forget, foreplay is going to be crucial. You are going to have to get her highly horny before the actual sex starts. You definitely don’t want to underestimate the power of foreplay because it will literally allow their genitals to fill with sexual energy. The better you get at foreplay, the easier it will be to make her orgasm in a very intense and pleasurable way.

Making her orgasm during sex

In order to make her orgasm during sex, your penis will have to hit her g-spot. While doing this can seem a bit intimidating for some guys, it really isn’t all that difficult. If you really want her to cum when you are having sex, you will need to have her lying on her back on the edge of the bed, resting her butt on a couple of pillows so that her bottom is elevated a little bit higher than her top half.

You will want to put your penis into her from a standing position—Thrust in and upwards simultaneously. The g-spot is located on the top half of the vagina, so it is straightforward to slide right past it with your penis. When you come in from below and thrust upwards while she is on her back, you will be able to hit the G-spot efficiently and effectively. Just watch and listen to her moan with pleasure as you do this.

A g-spot orgasm is incredibly intense for the girl, and if you are successful, it will have her coming back to you for more again and again. Not too many guys actually know how to hit a girl’s g-spot, which means that she will really think you are something special if you can do it. Giving her this type of orgasm is definitely worth the time and effort, simply because of how amazing it will make her feel. This is a surefire way to guarantee that she is going to want to have sex with you again and again.

There are a lot of guys who are really intimidated by the idea of making a girl cum, but there is no need to feel that way at all. The truth is that making a girl orgasm isn’t all that difficult as long as you know what you are doing. The main reason that so many guys fail to pleasure the girls they have sex with truly is because they never got the information. This section of the guide is crucial when it comes to having an out-of-this-world sex life.

Making her cum with your fingers

One of the best and most effective ways to get a girl to squirt and cum in bed is by using your fingers. While a lot of guys look entirely past the fingers, they can be a great tool in helping her achieve a genuinely memorable orgasm. There are a lot of different fingering techniques that you can use, and it’s important to know what some of the best ones are.

You will want to start by slipping your two middle fingers inside of her, curling them slightly upwards while she is lying on her back. With your two fingers curled upwards towards her belly button, start to move your hand up and down as opposed to just in and out. By doing this, you will hit the g-spot in a big way, and you can use the palm of your hand to rub up against the clit. This is one of the more basic techniques that you can use, but it will definitely work if you get it right.

Orgasms during Oral Sex

If you want to try and make her cum by eating her pussy, it is very possible but can be tricky. A lot of guys think that they are great at giving oral, but few of them actually are. There is absolutely no shame in admitting that you don’t know what you are doing as long as you’re also willing to learn. You can give a girl some truly unique orgasms through oral sex alone, but you will have to know precisely what you are doing first. While eating pussy is essentially a matter of just practising, there is still quite a bit that you can learn before you go in (so to speak).

If you really want to make her cum from oral sex, you will need to follow these steps:

  • Get her Relaxed: The very first thing that you will need to do is make sure that she is completely relaxed. There are a lot of ways to do this, including lighting some candles or incense. You can even give her a massage before you get started. The important thing to remember is that she should be completely comfortable and receptive to what you are about to start doing.
  • Find the right position: Next, you will need to make a point of finding the right position. If she is open to suggestions, go ahead and put a pillow under her butt and lift her pelvis so you can get some leverage. While she is lying back, keep her knees wide. The wider she is, the more of an opening you will have to work with. This will help intensify the sensation quite a bit.
  • Tease with your tongue: You will need to work on the art of teasing her pussy with your tongue. You will have to start off teasing her instead of going in full force. Give her pussy a slight lick of the tongue in an up-and-down motion. Start licking her thighs at first and then slowly start to move down, building intensity and speed.
  • Listen up: It is essential that you read her body, monitoring her breathing and paying close attention to how she moves her hips. If you are doing something she likes, you will definitely notice her getting more turned on. If you don’t listen to her body, you won’t really be able to tell whether or not you are doing it right.
  • Embrace the vibration: You definitely shouldn’t be afraid of using a vibrator on her. This can be a beneficial tool when it comes to getting a girl to orgasm intensely. A lot of guys shy away from using sex toys on the girls they are in bed with because they feel emasculated by them. It is important to look at vibrators and dildos as just another way to give her immense pleasure.

Making her cum during anal sex

If the girl you are in bed with is open to anal sex, you will undoubtedly want to know how to give her as much pleasure as possible this way as well. The truth is that orgasms from anal sex really aren’t that much different from those that are given through vaginal sex, but it is an entirely different and unique experience for the woman. While some women do not even like the idea of anal sex, there are still quite a few who are very much into it.

When she is giving you a blowjob, casually ask her if she might be okay with you slipping a finger into her butt. As long as you use a decent amount of lube and go slow at first, it should feel great for her. One of the biggest mistakes that guys make when it comes to getting girls into anal sex is by going too fast and hard. You need to take into consideration that anal sex is almost always something that needs to be entered into gently and with the utmost tact.

You will want to start eating her pussy out, and as you are doing this, slip a finger into her butt. This is definitely an excellent way to get this sort of thing started, but once again, you will need to be as gentle as possible at first. If you rush into it, chances are she is not going to be up for it in the foreseeable future.

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G-Spot Orgasms

When it comes to having an orgasm, nothing is more intense or pleasurable for a woman than when a guy hits her g-spot just right. The G-spot is located inside the vagina. If you want to hit this spot, all you have to do is slip two fingers inside her slowly, curling them upwards and going deep. You will be able to tell that she’s getting turned on by how much she is moaning and also by how wet she is getting. The more aroused she gets, the more inflamed the tissue that makes up the G-spot will become.

It’s essential to keep in mind that g-spot orgasms are by far the most pleasurable for the girl. You will definitely want to make a point of learning how to hit this spot as quickly and thoroughly as possible so you can give her the orgasm of her life. It would help if you weren’t nervous about doing this because despite what a lot of guys will tell you, it’s really not that difficult. Make sure that she is on her hands and knees when you are trying to hit her g-spot, whether it is with your fingers or penis.

Clitoral Orgasms

The clit and g-spot can give a woman two unique types of orgasms, each of which are incredibly intense and pleasurable. You have just learned all about the g-spot, but exactly how much do you know about stimulating the clitoris?

For guys who are somewhat inexperienced and want to educate themselves, the clit is located at the top part of the vagina and is slightly hidden under a hood. When sexual arousal occurs, it becomes engorged with blood and a lot more sensitive than usual. There are lots of different ways that you can stimulate the clitoris, but the tongue is by far the best. If you know how to use your tongue “down there,” you should find it relatively easy to give her an orgasm she won’t soon forget.

The clit tends to respond really well to vibrations, which is why a lot of women will use a vibrator pressed against the clit to achieve a very powerful orgasm. You will be able to stimulate her clit during sex, or while fingering her, you can use another finger. This works exceptionally well when it comes to making her cum because you have the double stimulation on the g-spot and clit going at the same time. You also might want to try using a vibrator on her clit during sex for an extra powerful orgasm.

Prostate Orgasms

The prostate can be yet another great area to hit when it comes to giving her the perfect orgasm, and you will definitely want to learn how to hit it just right during sex. It is possible to make her cum hard by hitting her prostate, either with your finger or penis. Prostate orgasms can be particularly powerful if you know what you are doing. You can actually combine a prostate orgasm with a clitoral orgasm if you really want to drive her crazy.

If the girl you are in bed with has a butt plug, you will be able to use your penis to give her a g-spot orgasm and a vibrator or lubed-up finger on her clit. The g-spot orgasm can set off a chain reaction, leading to a powerful prostate orgasm if she feels the pressure in this area.

Squirting Orgasms

One of the best ways to please the girl you are in bed with is by giving her an intense squirting orgasm. The very most straightforward way to make a girl squirt quickly is by simply using your fingers. This method enables you to hit her g-spot in just the right way so she has one of the most intense and dripping-wet orgasms of her life. While it’s true that not all girls squirt, many of them do. If you know how to use your fingers properly, you should have no problem accomplishing this with the girl you’re in bed with.

Giving her Multiple Orgasms

Women are capable of having multiple orgasms one after another, and you will definitely want to know how to go about doing this for them. There are quite a few different things that you will need to know when it comes to giving a woman multiple orgasms. The more of this information you have, the more effectively you will be able to pleasure her.

When she starts to reach climax and tips over the edge, you should pull back slightly. Although it can be challenging to get this exactly, you should begin to pull back when she seems like she is about 2/3 of the way through the orgasm. When she is coming back down, try and bring her back into another orgasm. If you are able to pull this off successfully, she will let you do whatever you want her to do.

Just keep going

Whatever you do, keep going. When you notice she has her first orgasm, do not stop! The only way that you are going to make her climax multiple times is if you keep going hard and fast, even after she has come the first time. Since guys are incapable of multiple orgasms, it can be easy to forget this essential tip. Girls are different in the sense that sex can still feel amazing even after they climax. Make sure that you don’t stop pumping away until you can tell she has come numerous times. She will definitely thank you for this afterwards.

Giving her a ‘Stacked Orgasm’

While it’s true that orgasm stacking is a reasonably advanced technique that takes some practising to get just right, it is well worth the time and effort. If you really want to bring her some out-of-this-universe pleasure, it is highly recommended that you start looking into this right away. There is nothing that even comes close to stacked orgasms with regard to sheer intensity. As your girl starts to get closer and closer to orgasm, you just lightly pull her back from going over the edge.

By pulling her back from her orgasm, you will be “stacking” the orgasms on top of each other. Each time you do this, her sexual energy will accumulate, gathering more and more intensity and building up. When she finally orgasms, it is going to be like nothing she has ever felt before.

You will definitely want to tease her as much as possible because doing so is only going to make the experience even more intense and pleasurable. If you are able to do this right, it can be an extremely overwhelming experience that she is never going to forget.

Getting her to swallow

Getting a girl to swallow your load during oral sex can be very tricky because it’s typically not something that most girls like doing. Of course, most guys think it’s hot when a girl swallows because, well, it just is. If you want to know how to get a girl to swallow for you every single time, you must know the basics.

The last thing you want to do when it comes to getting a girl to swallow is to hold her head down and try to force it because this will only make her want to never do it at all. She will also resent you for forcing her to do something she doesn’t want to do.

Some guys are tempted to just cum and give the girl a warning, but this is a mistake as well, at least potentially. You don’t want to take the chance that she is not going to be okay with swallowing. There is always still going to be the chance that she doesn’t want to swallow, and you end up with your own semen all over you. The point is that you are taking a big chance by simply warning her.

One of the most common reasons that girls don’t like to swallow is because they don’t like the taste, which is understandable. There are a number of things that you can do to improve the taste of your semen, though, such as eating more of certain foods like pineapple. If you eat a pineapple a few hours before sex, you might just find that swallowing your cum isn’t that big of a deal to her. Keep in mind that some girls will flat-out refuse to swallow no matter what, though. You always have to be prepared for a firm “no”, but there are still a lot of things you can do to change her mind.

Another reason why a girl might not want to swallow is because she’s never done it before. If this is the case, all you have to do is reassure her that it won’t be that bad. You can also make a deal with her that if she absolutely hates it, shedoesn’t have to do it again. This is a good compromise that she will have a hard time saying no to because you’ll be coming off as the reasonable one.

Some girls don’t want to swallow because it makes them “feel like a slut.” If this is the case, you can just reassure her that there is nothing slutty about swallowing (as long as you are the only guy she is doing it with.) Make sure that she knows that you are entirely accepting of her swallowing and that she has absolutely nothing to be ashamed of or worried about. If her biggest fear is feeling like a slut, try to make the whole act of swallowing as romantic as possible.

So what exactly do you do if she still refuses to swallow? Well, the answer is to be patient. If she absolutely won’t swallow, give it some time. You are never going to get anywhere with pressuring her into doing it. Chances are, if you are patient enough with her, she will come around to the idea of swallowing at some point. You can always bring it up sometime in the future. Just make sure that you aren’t constantly bugging her to swallow when she blows you.

You also want to keep in mind that there is no way that you are going to convince her to swallow every single time you have sex. It is much more likely that it’s going to be a special treat of sorts instead of a regular thing. If you were lucky enough to find a girl who loves swallowing, you obviously don’t have to worry about convincing her. But more often than not, girls will be very hesitant to swallow a guy’s load.


Anna Perkins is a relationship writer who offers her own forthright opinion over the worlds of dating, romance, relationships , marriage and friendships. She loves cats, traveling, spending time with her son and husband.


  1. Of the 40 Paragraphs 32 are devoted to the female orgasm, 8 are dedicated to getting your girl to swallow. Half of those 8 are the excuses for girls to not swallow, but not once in the 32 paragraphs about the female orgasm does it mention that some girls just cant squirt. And of course the reason for this? The author is a woman. You can make your girl orgasm all you want but she still ain’t gonna swallow your load because she doesn’t want to. At the end of the day she just doesn’t want to. She posses every ability to, but no matter the excuse, she frankly doesn’t want to.

    • PeterStiff Reply

      Been married, and divorced. Then have gone out with a few beautiful women.

      The finer point here is if a woman is really, REALLY into you, she will sooner than later cultivate a desire to swallow your load.

      If after x amount of years she does not come around to it, she just not into you as much as you are into her…period.

      You can decide to move on and find someone who is really into you, or live without what really makes you happy.

      As an individual, only you can decide that.

      I have known two “anti-swallowers” change their tune when they finally met the right guy.

      Don’t expect it right away, unless you are really lucky, but also don’t wait forever for it.

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