Did you know that dating other guys is one of the best ways to get your ex boyfriend to come back to you? I know the goal here is to get your ex boyfriend back,

It’s true. I know it may sound manipulative and a little sleazy, but jealousy works wonders when it comes to attraction. You see, human beings are supposed to feel jealous when something they desire is in the hands of another person… and it makes that desirable object even more desirable.

Let me put this another way. Have you ever wanted something so badly like a new cell phone? Once you got this new cell phone, you must have been pretty happy, right? But after awhile, the sort of magic that made that cell phone so appealing slowly fades until one day… the cell phone is just another cell phone.

But not say someone stole that cell phone from you. Suddenly, you probably want that cell phone back more than anything. Suddenly, that thing that sort of lost its “magic” now is more attractive than ever… you want that cell phone back!

This is what you want your ex boyfriend to feel for you when he hears about your new man. You want to tap into his primal instincts and just simply make him feel attracted to you. If you successfully accomplish this goal, getting him back should be a walk in the park.

But there are a few things you have to remember when you do this…

You can’t make it obvious to him that you’re trying to get him back. If you try and make it obvious that you’re trying to make him jealous, he’ll instantly become turned off, so you’ll want to avoid this.

Instead, try and drop very subtle hints. Or better yet, use social networking websites like Facebook to your advantage! You can post pictures of you two together. You can write on each others’ walls. If your ex boyfriend sees these posts, you can bet he’ll begin to get jealous… but again, don’t overdo it.

You can even talk to your mutual friends. Because… you know how quickly word gets around.

Have coffee with a mutual friend of your ex boyfriend’s and tell him or her about your new guy. Don’t rave about your new love interest, but mention it in passing. You can bet this message will get to your ex boyfriend.

If you do still talk with your ex boyfriend, it’s possible to convey to him that you have a new guy in your life without making it too obvious. Just say something like…

“I’ll be busy tomorrow… going to dinner with a friend tomorrow night.”


“Sorry, I just got this really funny text from my friend Mike about a movie we just saw. The Hangover 2… seen it?”

And the list goes on and on.

Chances are, once he gets a whiff of what you’ve been up to, he’ll start asking questions. And lots of them. But when he does, it’s important that you do not lose your cool! Just shrug it off as if it’s not a big deal.

Don’t tell your ex that you’re totally infatuated with this new guy, just tell him that you’ve been seeing each other and been on a few dates. That’s it.

But don’t get carried away. What a lot of girls do is tell their ex boyfriends that they’ve been sleeping with every guy in the neighbourhood. Don’t do this. Men don’t want to be in relationships with girls that tend to “get around” if you know what I mean. Just let it known to your ex that you’re wanted by another man, and that this guy that wants you is of high quality.

Essentially, what I’m trying to say here is that jealousy works. As seemingly childish and immature as it sounds, jealousy is a primal mechanism that can’t be avoided. Your ex boyfriend is not an exception to this rule.


Anna Perkins is a relationship writer who offers her own forthright opinion over the worlds of dating, romance, relationships , marriage and friendships. She loves cats, traveling, spending time with her son and husband.


  1. Chantay BUCK Reply

    I had been thinking of leaving my ex two months before he left me. He treated me like trash. It has been five days since the break up. Today, he saw me leave a restaurant with a guy after a lunch date. I can’t begin to explain to you how much power I felt like I had over him.

  2. Alex D'souza Reply

    Certainly, jealousy can do wonders but are you sure about wasting your time and energy for the person who left you for whatever reasons? What if he is not serious, is it really worth all the hassle? So there is a lot that you need to take into account before considering this option.

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