We know that as males, our wild instincts will tell us to turn on, remove our pants, and jump in bed with her. Just wait yet! If she isn’t ready to take off her clothes, don’t make the costly mistake of pushing her! Here are the ten signs a woman wants to sleep with you

God has created men and women different and when it comes to sex, the former seems to be too obvious and in a hurry for satisfying his desires. The same isn’t true for women because they need time to think about whether you are the right fit for them.

Unlike men, women won’t make it apparent that they want to sleep with you. There are subtle signs that you need to understand if she is interested in sleeping with you. There isn’t any clear indication of when she is ready to get down with you.

However, listed below are the top 10 telltale signs that a woman wants to sleep with you:

1. She ignites you sensually by wearing provocative clothes

wearing provocative clothes

Most women tend to wear modest clothing when going on a date. But if one day she comes with a red hot dress alongside black lingerie, then it is her evident sign of sleeping with you.

2. She invites you to her place

She invites you to her place
You won’t come across a lot of women inviting you to their place, but if it happens, it may mean she wants to sleep with you. While there is no clear indication that she wants to have sex, she still may be interested in being alone with you. It could mean that she wants to take things a further step, from closeness to having sex. As you get sensual, look for her cues, and you’ll understand what she wants. Think about it for a second. Why would she invite you to her place? Women mostly won’t ask their guys to come over, and if they do, it means that they are putting a lot of trust in you.

3. She thinks and answers deeply

She thinks and answers deeply
Most males don’t have the confidence to ask open-ended questions like “What have you thought about your future?” or “Where would you want to spend your vacation?” etc. Ask her open-ended questions and hear her response. If she thinks and answers deeply, there is a high chance that she is into you.

4. She gets closer to you

She gets closer to you

If she is getting closer to you, like putting her head on your shoulders, touching your bicep muscles, or simply closing the physical gap even when you are sitting together, it is a clear signal that she wants to sleep with you. As women start developing confidence, they will eventually start showing sensuality and closeness as time moves on. Her shyness would sooner or later go away, and she will start feeling comfortable discussing sex openly with you. When this happens, it means that she wants to have sex with you.

5. She is breathing heavily

She is breathing heavily

This one is something difficult to fake. If she is heavily breathing, it means that she really is turned on. The more she shows interest in you, the more her heart rate starts rapidly increasing. As you spend more time with her and you start noticing her rapid breathing, it means she is willing to sleep and have sex with you.

6. She licks her lips time and again

This is another habit that is difficult to fake. When girls repeatedly lick their lips, it is a surefire sign of them being with you in bed. Guys usually get turned on after watching women licking their lips time and again.

7. She may pretend not to show her interest in you

She may pretend not to show her interest in you
Women are complicated beings, and it takes a lot of time and patience to win their hearts, minds and trust. Most of the time, you will be tested. She will pretend as if she is losing her interest in you. She may, at times, stop talking to you, not picking up your calls, and not responding to your messages. She isn’t serious, but seriously testing your faith in her. She wants to know if you are interested in developing a long-term relationship with her or just using her as a one-night stand. Once you are ruling this period with patience and showing continuous signs of interest in her, then she is all yours. She will even get confident enough to openly show her interest in sleeping and having sex with you.

8. She wants to be touched, cuddled and kissed

She wants to be touched, cuddled and kissed
Men often get aroused too quickly, but women? Don’t even think about it! As stated earlier, they are complicated beings. They need a lot of time. They want a lot of cuddling, hugging and kissing. Over time, when she is continuously dating you, she will show you subtle signs of getting intimate with you. This necessarily doesn’t mean sleeping with you, but obviously, it is the first step to making love in bed. Kissing women opens the doors to sex. You can talk to her as much as you want, but unless you kiss her, she will stop showing interest in you.

9. If she is sharing her personal life with you

If she is sharing her personal life with you
Women tend to share their personal life stories and histories with you only if you gain their confidence levels. This will happen with time after showing interest in them. One of the clear signs that she wants to sleep with you is that she starts taking an interest in you and, in turn, shares her personal story.

10. She will start sexting with you

start sexting with you
Apart from the usual “Hey, what’s up, how’s ya doing?”, you will start receiving messages like “Hey, what you’re doing? I am getting bored!” or “Hey, I’m lonely and wanna meet ya.”
Sexting is a very sexual part of any relationship. Erotic and sexual talking are clear signs that she wants to sleep and have sex with you. This won’t happen in the beginning, but as you both develop strong bonds and a mutual understanding, you will start receiving sexual messages from her side.


Anna Perkins is a relationship writer who offers her own forthright opinion over the worlds of dating, romance, relationships , marriage and friendships. She loves cats, traveling, spending time with her son and husband.


  1. If a girl start to show off and look back in answer of eye contact
    Is it a sure sign that she is intresred ?
    I am woried there are some girls are doing these things (show off or start playing with their hair or etc) just for fun!!!!and
    Just to make sure she is hot enough to herself

  2. well, pretty good to have sex in mind but for us women is not enough, we need more tenderness and mutual feelings coming through our relationship…then emotions and sexual appeal score high levels.
    thanks, dating…!

  3. The only sure signs on this list are sexting and getting close to you. How do you know she wants you to touch her unless she says so? Skinny jeans are in fashion and doesn’t mean a woman wants your sexual attention. If she thinks deeply it means she wants you? WTF Maybe she is a deep thinker. I lick my lips when they are dry and sometimes I share what is going on in my life when I am upset or excited. It doesn’t mean I want to hook up. This is dumb!

  4. There is a thing called slit shaming and it’s when a woman of any age wears something that could turn on men. Unfortunately if I man or whomever is desperate, anything could be a turn on. Just because you think someone wants you does not mean they do. The only true way is to ask. Never jump to conclusions and then think they are playing hard to get. The old she wanted me then she just changed her mind afterward rape defense. None of these signs are a guarantee but could be indicators. Sex is delicate and everyone should be careful not to make a huge mistake by jumping to conclusions without true validation.

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