I am proposing in Bleeker Street park, NYC this month. I have everything sorted out from the holiday, everything my girlfriend will need, outfits for going out for a meal, the engagement ring, etc… The only thing I haven’t nailed down is exactly what to say. I haven’t figured out whether I’m going to go for a funny angle, which is probably more me, or to go for the really romantic angle. Perhaps a mix of both?
So, the first question is, in what way should I say my little speech?
The second question is, what should I say for my speech?!
I’m feeling pretty confident about my plan and the fact that she will hopefully say yes, but when it comes to words I’m not great – how can I best express my feelings of wanting to be with her for the rest of my life, without making a complete fool of myself? The last thing I want is a cheesy proposal! Would love to know if you have any suggestions.
Thanks so much for your great questions. You are not alone, I assure you!
Many people plan the perfect setting or surprise location for their proposals, but when it comes to the actual asking the question “will you marry me?” their minds draw a blank. It sounds like you have a lovely proposal location picked out, plus everything you will need to make it extra special. You’ve put so much thought into creating the perfect memory – your girlfriend is a lucky woman to have found such a romantic man to share her life with.
So let’s take one question at a time:
What Way Should I Propose?
You said that being funny is more your style, but you are open to being romantic, too. I completely agree with you when you stated “perhaps a mix of both.” It is certainly important to be yourself or otherwise the proposal will appear to lack sincerity. Don’t worry about how it is done in the movies, as if there is only one right way. After all, you want your girlfriend to feel it is you proposing, not your attempt at reciting a scene from a Hollywood blockbuster.
I know you mentioned that “being you” would involve humor, however I would recommend not overdoing it in the comedy department. There needs to be some romance and heartfelt sincerity to your words during a proposal. So that is why I agree a mixture of both would be perfect.
So maybe you would start with something funny in the beginning. It needn’t be humorous words, it could be a cute/silly prop or even bringing your little dog (if you had one!), dressed in a doggie tuxedo, being the “ring bearer.” The sky is the limit on how to add your personality into the proposal. But when it comes down to asking her to marry you, I would leave the punch lines behind.
What Should I Say?
Many people struggle to find the right words, putting so much pressure on themselves to “get it right.” My first bit of advice is to relax and speak naturally.
I know you have referred to the actual proposal as a “speech” a few times, so let me assist on correcting that assumption. You do not have to prepare a long, wordy proposal. Sometimes something as simple as “A life without you wouldn’t be living – please say you’ll walk by my side forever – marry me” is all that is needed. Again, you need to be comfortable and be yourself. A few perfect words can have just as much impact as a page filled with fluffy words.
There are other ideas available to you, too. If you do want it to be a longer proposal, consider writing a song or a poem – then reading or performing your proposal for her (or have someone else perform it). Also, some people use props that spell out “will you marry me?” Whatever feels more like you is the way to go, in my opinion.
I hope you find these ideas helpful. It sounds like you have a beautiful proposal ready to go. Just be yourself (but not too comical) and get creative/colour outside of the lines when it comes to planning what to say.
Wishing you a lifetime of happiness,