Love the blog and the advice you offer about marriage proposals so I thought I would seek your advice on our situation. We really need some marriage proposal ideas involving kids as I’d love to get our little ones involved in the proposal with my partner. The kids are our lives and after everything we’ve been through together to get to this point (a letter for another time) I feel it really important to have them involved in some way. Do you have any ideas that you think I could incorporate in order to have them involved? Ideally I’d like it to either be a proposal at home or at a nice outdoor location that is somewhat private, i.e. a picnic on a quiet part of the beach we live near.
Any help would be greatly appreciated,
I am so happy to hear that you enjoy the blog, including marriage proposal ideas. Thanks so much for the compliments! I am happy to offer some advice about including your children in your marriage proposal. How touching it is to involve them in making this special memory – you, your partner and your children will never forget this day, I promise.
I do have some advice and suggestions that might work well for you. I will, however, start with the one obstacle you are most likely aware of already. If you want this proposal to be a surprise and, though I don’t know the ages of your children, they are truly “little ones” as you state, that will be the first hurdle to overcome in planning your event. It will be nearly impossible for them to keep the secret or wear a poker face the day of the proposal!
So my advice and suggestions that follow on how to include them will leave some wiggle room for you on this matter – making the little ones just as surprised as your partner, unaware they are actually playing a role in the proposal. That way, you don’t have to worry about unintentionally spoiling the surprise. However, if you aren’t worried about that, these ideas will work fine just the same, including the children in your special day.
So on to my ideas. I will give some ideas for both at home and/or outdoor proposals, making the assumption once more that your children are quite young (not making the proposal too elaborate or requiring too much from the little participants!). Remember that my suggestions allow for your not telling the children they are involved so no secret keeping necessary – they will be as surprised as your partner.
Make a family treasure hunt throughout the house. Write clues on note cards in advance and have the whole family participate in finding clues, with the final one being the engagement ring, of course! You can make this one fancier by having the same size gift box at each clue location, with little candies or surprises inside. This could also be done in the backyard.
Involve everyone in making a family dinner (simple meal) or BBQ and for dessert you can bring out a fancy tray with lid, with the engagement ring underneath.
Play a family game together but choose one that can be altered with a ring. Think back to the “popomatic” games where you can put the ring inside of the popper. Choose a children’s game everyone can play and participate in, of course. If your children can all participate in a game like charades, when it is your turn you can act out “will you marry me?”
OUTDOORS/PICNIC AT THE BEACH
Have a sandcastle building contest (or an outdoor beach-type game contest everyone can play) and have boxes with “gifts” for each person (1st place through last place – but I recommend all children get the same prize so no pouting ruins the moment!). Of course, your partner’s prize is the engagement ring.
If you’re musically inclined, write a love song for your partner, bring your guitar/instrument and buy little child instruments (shakers, tambourine, etc) for your backup “band.” Have your last lyrics be “will you marry me.” This, of course, can be done at home, too.
I hope you like these ideas, Andy. Hopefully, if not exactly what you want, they get the creative juices flowing where you can adapt them to fit your family’s interests and personalities. Again, thanks so much for asking for advice. Do let us know, if you don’t mind, sharing how your proposal went! Including the children is such a wonderful idea.