15 Jul 2013

I Need Help About Long Distance Marriage Proposal Ideas

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Hi Grace,

I am so lucky to have found your blog which specializes in love letters and marriage proposals. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years in a long distance relationship. We keep our relationship alive through open communication as we both think that this is the most important.

Sometimes we have dates using online applications such as watching the same movies or TV shows together at the same time although in a different place. We both believe that we’re both under the same sky and we contend ourselves of this fact.

I love her so much and I want to ask her to marry me, my problem is how? The distance between us makes it really hard so I am asking for help about some long distance marriage proposal ideas.

Thanks in advance,

Hi Brian – thank you for writing in! I love hearing about long distance relationships and how couples make them work, keeping the romance alive. You shared some wonderful ideas which I’m sure other readers who are in a long distance relationship will benefit from.

Congratulations on your readiness to move to the next level in your partnership – marriage. I am happy that you have turned to my blog for advice on how to achieve proposing when you’re apart. I will gladly share my thoughts and ideas with you.

Do keep in mind that I do not have all of the unique details pertaining to your lifestyles or preferences, so I will offer a variety of suggestions and some will work for you while others will not. Here are some long distance marriage proposal ideas to get you started in the right direction:


If vacation time and/or budget will allow, I highly recommend proposing in person when it is possible. Perhaps in your case this will not work, and that is fine – but just wanted to emphasize that face to face is preferred if you can pull it off. Surprising her with a romantic, fun filled weekend where you pop the question will be a memory you both will treasure for the rest of your lives.


As long as a friend or family member can be trusted to keep a secret and is reliable to carry out a task or two, you can create a wonderful proposal by getting another involved. One example is that you can ask your helper to set up a lovely, romantic setting with candles, music and whatever else is aesthetically pleasing to you both. You can be ready to propose via Skype (have the computer close to where she will be sitting) and you can even have the ring on the table where she will sit.

Your helper should simply set up the location, guide her there – then leave! You are trying to keep this special moment as intimate as possible between the two of you, even at a long distance, so in the end it should just be the two of you when you ask her to marry you.


The following ideas will work beautifully for a long distance marriage proposal – but another great idea is proposing twice! Of course, the first one is the real deal – but because you both can’t be together, you can promise to propose in person the next time you are face to face. You could even send a promise ring to her, keeping the engagement ring in hand for when you meet again.

Whether proposing once or twice, there are many great examples of proposals you can do long distance. You can propose via a love letter, make a video proposal and mail it to her or even send her homemade cookies that spell out “will you marry me?” If you are musical, write her a proposal song and record it. For more intimacy and directness, you can mail her a package and tell her not to open it until you connect via Skype – then ask her to open the box (with the ring inside) and propose in real time. These are just some examples but, of course, any romantic ideas that appeal to you on this blog will do, even at a distance.

In closing, my only other tip is to be certain that the timing is right. You have maintained a long distance relationship for four years and communicate openly, which leads me to assume you have both discussed what the future may look like. It is important, when couples are separated by many miles, to have a basic plan as to where you will be TOGETHER in the future. Proposing is a special moment to be remembered and treasured for all time – but fears or stressful obstacles which haven’t been discussed yet can put a damper on the moment. So be certain that these matters have been worked out before asking her to marry you, so that the proposal can be magical for both of you.

Wishing you a lifetime of happiness together,



Grace Pamer is a full time romance and relationship writer. She writes romance and marriage proposal tip columns for various publications including YourTango.com and GalTime.com. As seen on FoxNews.com, Cosmopolitan.com, DivineCaroline.com and CanadianLiving.com to name but a few.

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