07 Jun 2012

How To Keep Your Long Distance Date Night Alive With A Little Pre-Planning

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Nothing hurts a romantic couple more than having to be apart. Unfortunately, sometimes life circumstances or careers force this separation on couples who would like nothing better than to be together every minute of the day.

With some pre-planning, though nothing can replace being side by side, the pain of being apart can be minimized thanks to modern technology. With the internet, couples can still gaze into each other’s eyes, eat dinner while discussing the day’s events and even lie in bed and talk about the future before turning out the lights for the evening.

Let Technology be your friend
Aside from letting technology keep the daily routines intact, a couple can also keep their traditional Friday or Saturday night date alive as well.

Just look at how one couple who constantly has to endure lengthy separations keeps the romance alive – making the time apart more tolerable. They are truly more romantic apart than most couples are when together!

Peter and Gloria are no strangers to the heartbreak of separation from a loved one. Peter installs fire sprinkler systems across the country for major companies and when duty calls, he has to leave town and remain at the work site until the entire job is complete.

Gloria understands that Peter’s job is important but also openly admits it is so hard sometimes. About a week before Peter leaves, this loving couple begins sulking around the house, knowing goodbye isn’t far away.

The week before tends to fly by but once Peter leaves, Gloria explained, the weeks can just drag on and on.

Whenever possible, they arrange a mid-project rendezvous with Gloria flying out to Peter’s location, but that is quite an expense and at Gloria’s new job at the hospital, taking time off is not easy given the limited vacation time she has available.

The detail is in the planning
Tired of the long goodbyes, Peter and Gloria devised a plan to make the separation easier by keeping to the same traditions they usually participate in at home. When together, Wednesday nights were always Chinese takeout meals and a thriller style movie.

Saturday nights were always a date night out of the home. Also, Peter and Gloria always did a crossword puzzle in bed on weeknights, taking time to snuggle and connect, while unwinding from the day.

So Wednesday nights both Peter and Gloria use Skype to meet with their Chinese food in hand. Setting laptops on the table, they eat their favorite foods, talk and laugh about life and read each other their fortune cookies as always.

Before Peter leaves on his trips, all thriller movies are decided on in advance and Peter brings the old laptop they have so he can play the movie at the same time Gloria plays hers on their tv.

At first they would watch them alone and then reconnect afterward. But they like being able to glance at each other while watching, so the Skype continues through the movie.

Crosswords in bed still take place each night before sleep. Gloria bought 2 identical crossword books and Peter takes his along. Then they work on the same one together and talk openly through Skype, just like they do every night at home.

Don’t forget the envelopes
The most magical creation they came up with is that both of them equally create romantic envelopes for date nights. If Peter will be gone 6 weeks, each one of them will create three.

The envelopes will have a date night idea, such as stargazing, sitting at the park and reading a book to each other.

In addition, they can also be filled with a love letter, romantic tidbits and/or photos. Gloria joked they are actually getting competitive with each other to be the most creative!

The best part, Gloria says, is that the week before Peter leaves isn’t so painful anymore, because both of them spend the week preparing all of these special, romantic treats before he goes.

So it is a win-win, even with the heartbreak of separation.

If a long distance relationship has been getting you down why not take inspiration from these two love birds? They may not be together physically but they still make the most of their time together when separated.


Grace Pamer is a full time romance and relationship writer. She writes romance and marriage proposal tip columns for various publications including YourTango.com and GalTime.com. As seen on FoxNews.com, Cosmopolitan.com, DivineCaroline.com and CanadianLiving.com to name but a few.

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3 Responses to “How To Keep Your Long Distance Date Night Alive With A Little Pre-Planning”

  1. Reply Terez says:

    So much of the downside of technology is written about in the media – how Facebook damages relationships, etc. However, technology is just a tool. It’s HOW we use it which makes all the difference.

    Grace, I love your case study about Peter and Gloria! It’s inspiring how they have been able to keep their intimacy alive even when separated. But more importantly, their use of technology to bridge the distance gap is a hallmark of the way they have made their relationship a TOP priority – and that’s a key to lasting love!

    • Reply admin says:

      Absolutely Terez. Using technology in a creative way can really make couples come together. I remember the first time my hubby was away on business and we had a skype video chat. It was magical for him to walk around the hotel room and show me the view from the balcany and just see him in person despite the distance.

      Thanks for the comment and the tweet, much appreciated you star man!

    • Reply admin says:

      Thanks Terez and indeed it is how we use technology that is key. I think skype video (or any of the instant chat aps) are one of the most uniting technologies ever invented. The ability to look each other in the eye whilst far away is a blessing for any long distance relationship. It’s then about how creative you want to get in using that technology with shared date nights that becomes real sweet.

      Thanks for the comment lovely gent.

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