26 Oct 2012

How To Carry Out A Successful Proposal

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The act of proposing marriage is something that many people do not look forward to, for many different reasons. It could be that we have blown out of proportion the drama and anxiety of the event, and in the process made it something to be dreaded. Maybe it is seen as a rite of passage that signals commitment and actual maturity, and again is something to be anxious about doing. Or it might just be that it has become an obligation rather than an opportunity to be romantic and passionate in an age of irony and abstraction. However you think of your upcoming proposal, you definitely want it to be successful and memorable, and to come off without a hitch. Here are some tips on how carry out a successful proposal.

1.Be Sure Of The Answer

Don’t take the answer to your question for granted. There’s an old saying that’s usually given as advice to trial lawyers that applies in this situation: never ask a question that you don’t already know the answer to. If you feel that the time is right for popping the question to your lover, you should have a certainty that is as close to 100% as possible that she will say yes, and make your day a good one. Clearly, no one can be absolutely positive of the outcome, but hopefully you and her are close enough and have communicated enough to know that she won’t surprise you on the big day.

2.Make It An Event To Remember

Take the whole thing seriously – setting, timing, assistance, and so on. Do some research on the Internet to see some novel, dramatic, unique, and even risky ways to make the proposal a big deal. Even if you choose a more traditional and low key approach, make it a party if other people are invited, or a romantic evening for the two of you if it’s a private affair. Make your plan as if you are writing a play, and rehearse it. Don’t leave anything to chance, because this is your time to shine, and you’ll be appreciated for doing a good job.

3.Put It In Your Own Words

Try to avoid, if possible, the clichés of the tradition. It’s OK to say “will you marry me”, but the question should have been preceded by a few original words of love, devotion and commitment to a future together. It’s not necessary to write a novel, and no one expects you to produce a literary masterpiece, but say something besides the question itself. It will make the moment much more memorable, and give you something to remember for years to come.

4.Celebrate The Commitment

Finally, once you have your answer, make it an event of importance. Let your partner know how much you love her, and how much you look forward to a lifetime together. Now is the time to celebrate, to sing, to dance, to laugh and have a good time. After all, you just pulled off one of those things that people dread and fear successfully!


Grace Pamer is a full time romance and relationship writer. She writes romance and marriage proposal tip columns for various publications including YourTango.com and GalTime.com. As seen on FoxNews.com, Cosmopolitan.com, DivineCaroline.com and CanadianLiving.com to name but a few.

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