I was recently having coffee with a good friend of mine when she opened up to the fact that she and her hubby had been going to see a couples counsellor for quite sometime. She said they loved it and it was now a big feature in their relationship. I don’t mind admitting I was somewhat taken aback.
My friend and her hubby really are ‘that perfect couple’ and it got me to thinking that maybe the secret to that sauce is the freedom the counselling must give them to communicate openly. So I thought what better way to explain it than to invite a lovely lady I’ve had the pleasure to get to know over recent months, namely couples counsellor Tina Tessina, to tell us more about her work and what it entails.
- What made you decide you wanted to be a couples counsellor?
My own failed marriage and the recovery from it, plus what I learned in my counseling training about how to be successful at relationships (my second marriage has been happy for 30 years now) led to my interest in couples counseling.
- How have you felt your background in psychotherapy has contributed towards your role?
As opposed to “coaches,” I have real training in how to effectively help couples overcome relationship problems and have loving, happy committed partnerships. My psychotherapy training has made all the difference between just guessing what works to knowing exactly what is successful.
- What do you find the most rewarding part of being a couples counsellor?
Watching people (who didn’t originally understand what skills were necessary to create a successful relationship) learn the right tools and skills, open their communication, and learn how to be partners in life. I see them go from fighting and wanting to break up to really appreciating, loving, enjoying and helping each other .
- What are your top tips for a happy marriage?
Thank you Tina for taking the time to speak today.
Tina B. Tessina, PhD, (aka “Dr. Romance”) is a psychotherapist and author of Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage (Adams Media) 1-59869-325-6. Her excellent blog can be found at Tina Tessina.